Melva Nicodemus

Melva Nicodemus

Wednesday, August 1st, 1951 - Sunday, December 16th, 2018
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Melva Rae “Toast” Nicodemus, 67, of Rogers, Ark. died at her home on Sunday, December 16th, 2018. She was born in Des Moines, Iowa, on August 1st, 1951 to Melvin Nicodemus and Constance Edison. She is survived by her siblings, Linda Portel and James Nicodemus, her daughter, Melissa Rae Nicodemus, and her granddaughter, Raelee Shae Nicodemus.
Known simply as “Toast,” she earned her nickname because of her given name’s resemblance to the “Melba” in Melba Toast. Toast served eight years in the Army Reserve. She was a meticulous artisan and craftswoman who restored furniture and painted homes. Always a survivor and a fighter, in the last year of her life Toast defied the expectations of doctors by living through a coma and returning home after they believed all hope was lost. At the end of her life, Toast was disabled, but she lived an active life and loved the outdoors, especially fishing and camping. Whether it was karaoke night, a camping trip, playing cards, or just a night in at home, Toast was not the life of the party, she was the party. She loved music and dancing and to be around friends and loved ones. She could Cha-Cha Slide and Cupid Shuffle like you wouldn’t believe. Wherever she was, the room was filled with laughter and smiles. She was an expert at making people smile. When someone around her was upset, she could always cheer them up and even make them forget why they were upset in the first place. Toast was the kindest person in the world. If anyone ever needed anything, she would go out of her way to make sure that they had it. She would not hesitate to give you the shirt off her back, even if it was the very last shirt she had. When her daughter started a nonprofit organization to help isolated and lonely older adults, Toast sold her car for $400 and donated it all to help home-bound and disabled adults in Northwest Arkansas. Toast was a proud and loving mother to Melissa and grandmother to Raelee. Toast and Melissa enjoyed lively nights playing cribbage and cards together and with friends until Toast’s final days. Toast never stopped living. No matter what happened, she always remained full of wit and wisdom, feisty and full of fun, jokes, and laughter. God gave her a beautiful soul to share with the world and that is exactly what she did while she was here, and what she will continue to do long after she is gone.

“The world is always changing
Nothing stays the same
But love will stand the test of time …
Cherish the love
Cherish the life”
--Kool & The Gang

In place of a memorial service, Melissa will hold a celebration of life at a later date. As Toast would have wanted, the celebration will take place outdoors in nature when the weather is warmer. If you wish to be notified directly of the date and location of the celebration when it is announced, reach out to Melissa at 479-256-8476 or on Facebook. If you would like to pay respects at an earlier date, Melissa welcomes you to visit her at her home to share memories and Toast to Toast!”

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Toast's memory to Living Lively, a local nonprofit inspired by Toast and founded by her daughter, Melissa. The organization provides in-home companionship to isolated older adults in Northwest Arkansas and seeks to end loneliness in the aging community. Melissa started Living Lively in her mother's honor to help other aging and disabled adults like Toast.

Living Lively
1304 W. Margaret Pl.
Rogers, AR 72756

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Kitty Lynn Warrell

Posted at 09:31am
I remember when Toast was mowing and ran over a hornets nest. She was stung several times as she jumped off the runaway mower that she had to chase down. Lol. She was so swollen that her face was actually fat if you can imagine that!

Arianthee Marie

Posted at 10:49pm
She was like my second mom. I learned more from her than I ever realizes. I will never forget the countless nights we danced and sang into the wee hours of the morning, playing games and telling stories. Camping and backroading were always my favorites and we did it often. She is a wonderful friend, teacher, mother, and person overall. An unforgettable laugh and smile that was nothing short of contageous. You couldn't be sad when Toast was around. Her eyes would sparkle as she gave you all the words of encouragement you could possibly need before turning on the music and making you dance your worries away. I used to hate those silly old songs when I was young but now, they're my favorites. I can never hear them and not smile with the memories of her.

Patty Harden

Posted at 12:45pm
Toast was a woman that once you met her you never forgot her. She became a permanent part of your life and left an imprint on your heart. She's the kind of person that you meet and she's a lot of fun and you think she's always a party girl. But there was a deeper side to her that she didn't show to everyone. The few that did see it knew Melva for sure. She would be there for you even if she just met you. Always willing to help someone in any type of situation. She was a storyteller as well and could weave a story with the best of them-not always true stories but her way of getting out of telling the whole truth and that was when she knew she was in trouble. Lol God how she will be missed by many and loved by all!

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